worst night on my life..cant move on any advice?

[particle-jim]

when i broke up with my missus it was after about 4 years (the last year was horrible tho) and i found out that she slept with one of my best friends ON MY BIRTHDAY, needless to say my head was in a baaaaaaad way that i'm still battling after about a year, tried medicating with copious amounts of skunk but its only fucked my head up more, still kinda addicted to weed and gotta go 2 the doctor about depression but i'm finding that doing lots of simple, small things helps loads (tidied my room the other day and today i got a haircut, looks sweet) i might start doing some volunteer work or something so that i get more of a perspective on my own life in relation to others, seeing friends and doing creative stuff helps a lot as well. Also i can relate to the not knowing how to talk to girls, i've found myself in the same position but i think thats mostly coz i keep telling myself i dont know how, i guess u just gotta be yourself and it'll be fine, if they don't like you then they aint worth the effort. Eventually it'll pay off dude

at the end of the day depression is all mind games man, if you tell yourself you feel like shit ur gunna feel like shit

writing all that was kinda cathartic lol

[Pistonsbeneath]

i have been depressed for about two months now since my x dumped me. it is really starting to affect my everyday life. I eat like shit and sleep all the time, except never when its appropriate. I am failing my classes at my university and have no drive to go out and do things. anyways last night i was really messed up off xanax and drinking so i decided to text her about my depression. she said "that sucks, just keep your chin up, i have to go im eating" and that was it. her utter disrespect for my current emotional state threw me overboard. I began drinking and ate more xanax. then i guess i called her later and told her that she was a terrible heartless person and told her she would end up like her mother and all she could say to me is "grow up" and then this morning she called to say she was blocking my phone number. I was with this girl for 3 years, we traveled together spent every single day together and i was literally head over healls for her and she could care less now that i developed depression over the situation and my life is in the shitter... i dont know how to get over her, I have used drugs, alcohol, family, friends, to try and break out of this depression. i cant figure out how someone could be so heartless and cold to a person they used to love so much. I just dont know.

mate

why are you still barking up the wrong tree?

get a fucking hobby....you will do so much better!

you seem to enjoy talking about anal too so maybe you like guys?

oh and...

[djelements]

i have been depressed for about two months now since my x dumped me. it is really starting to affect my everyday life. I eat like shit and sleep all the time, except never when its appropriate. I am failing my classes at my university and have no drive to go out and do things. anyways last night i was really messed up off xanax and drinking so i decided to text her about my depression. she said "that sucks, just keep your chin up, i have to go im eating" and that was it. her utter disrespect for my current emotional state threw me overboard. I began drinking and ate more xanax. then i guess i called her later and told her that she was a terrible heartless person and told her she would end up like her mother and all she could say to me is "grow up" and then this morning she called to say she was blocking my phone number. I was with this girl for 3 years, we traveled together spent every single day together and i was literally head over healls for her and she could care less now that i developed depression over the situation and my life is in the shitter... i dont know how to get over her, I have used drugs, alcohol, family, friends, to try and break out of this depression. i cant figure out how someone could be so heartless and cold to a person they used to love so much. I just dont know.

mate

why are you still barking up the wrong tree?

get a fucking hobby....you will do so much better!

you seem to enjoy talking about anal too so maybe you like guys?

oh and...

That's hella harsh dude.

[Pistonsbeneath]

you said hella though

[parson]

when in doubt, consult the chart
http://iasos.com/metaphys/3d-4d/

its a damn good chart

[deepsteppa]

i have been depressed for about two months now since my x dumped me. it is really starting to affect my everyday life. I eat like shit and sleep all the time, except never when its appropriate. I am failing my classes at my university and have no drive to go out and do things. anyways last night i was really messed up off xanax and drinking so i decided to text her about my depression. she said "that sucks, just keep your chin up, i have to go im eating" and that was it. her utter disrespect for my current emotional state threw me overboard. I began drinking and ate more xanax. then i guess i called her later and told her that she was a terrible heartless person and told her she would end up like her mother and all she could say to me is "grow up" and then this morning she called to say she was blocking my phone number. I was with this girl for 3 years, we traveled together spent every single day together and i was literally head over healls for her and she could care less now that i developed depression over the situation and my life is in the shitter... i dont know how to get over her, I have used drugs, alcohol, family, friends, to try and break out of this depression. i cant figure out how someone could be so heartless and cold to a person they used to love so much. I just dont know.

mate

why are you still barking up the wrong tree?

get a fucking hobby....you will do so much better!

you seem to enjoy talking about anal too so maybe you like guys?

oh and...

That's hella harsh dude.

I CONCUR

[Pistonsbeneath]

hey guys i already posted up a more expansive nicer version the last time he made this thread....

[deepsteppa]

hey guys i already posted up a more expansive nicer version the last time he made this thread....

your point being?

[Pistonsbeneath]

hey guys i already posted up a more expansive nicer version the last time he made this thread....

your point being?

we've all been through rough breakups

i posted the best advice i could muster the last time he posted up a thread about this and he didn't listen or want to know...

getting tough with people is better than pandering to them sometimes...

i really don't see what was harsh about my post...if someone could tell me...

the caring continuum thing was in reference to him saying he could care less rather than couldn't care less....

[kins83]

I went through a shitty time after the break down of my first relationship. Mates spent a lot of time listening to me, hearing me out. But the best advice that I got was from a female friend (there might have been something there but my incessant whinging about my previous relationship put paid to that).

She told me that wallowing in self pity is selfish, clinging onto foolish hopes of getting back together stops you from moving forward, and that nobody will want to be with a miserable person. It really opened my eyes and made me buck my fucking ideas up.

So if you're constantly wimpering that you will never meet anyone like her again, you won't. Cos no one will want to be with someone so wrapped up in their own emotions and self pity.

You're not gonna get back with her. She's moved on, and so should you. Sure she might still be in your thoughts - break ups are tough and most people will have a rough patch - but don't wallow in it. There's billions of women on this planet, and so the idea that just one of them is your perfect match is ridiculous.

Sort yourself out.

[dreamizm]

There's billions of women on this planet, and so the idea that just one of them is your perfect match is ridiculous

[firky]

piston's right, ultimately he's still blaming his ex for his problems.



refer to my earlier post.....

[ben freeman]

I went through a shitty time after the break down of my first relationship. Mates spent a lot of time listening to me, hearing me out. But the best advice that I got was from a female friend (there might have been something there but my incessant whinging about my previous relationship put paid to that).

She told me that wallowing in self pity is selfish, clinging onto foolish hopes of getting back together stops you from moving forward, and that nobody will want to be with a miserable person. It really opened my eyes and made me buck my fucking ideas up.

So if you're constantly wimpering that you will never meet anyone like her again, you won't. Cos no one will want to be with someone so wrapped up in their own emotions and self pity.

You're not gonna get back with her. She's moved on, and so should you. Sure she might still be in your thoughts - break ups are tough and most people will have a rough patch - but don't wallow in it. There's billions of women on this planet, and so the idea that just one of them is your perfect match is ridiculous.

Sort yourself out.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Werd.

[death_cafe]

easy for me to say at the moment but. do some exercise, sounds weird but will help you feel better. dont get fucked off your face. go out with mates.

i bet you in a year or so you'll be thinking "why the fuck was i making such a fuss"

Wise man. That's good advice.

[manillathrilla]

i wish i could be harsher to myself i relize that im an emotional pussy about this
last night i got with a girl
in my opinion below my standards
my x was literally gorgeous i know ive said that enough
i am nervous/embarassed about being with girls that i am better than not to sound like a jerk
obviousy id rather be bangin a girl than not but its hard as hell when you start at the top

[parson]

trophy girls are trouble. you'll learn to steer well clear of them eventually.

[magma]

i wish i could be harsher to myself i relize that im an emotional pussy about this
last night i got with a girl
in my opinion below my standards
my x was literally gorgeous i know ive said that enough
i am nervous/embarassed about being with girls that i am better than not to sound like a jerk
obviousy id rather be bangin a girl than not but its hard as hell when you start at the top

We may be seeing the reason why the first one left you. Seriously dude, you need a better outlook on women.

[hayze99]

Just stopping by to say that every time I read the title to this thread, it turns into the lyrics of some cheesy love song. Just sayin...

[CollisionCourse]

i have been depressed for about two months now since my x dumped me. it is really starting to affect my everyday life. I eat like shit and sleep all the time, except never when its appropriate. I am failing my classes at my university and have no drive to go out and do things. anyways last night i was really messed up off xanax and drinking so i decided to text her about my depression. she said "that sucks, just keep your chin up, i have to go im eating" and that was it. her utter disrespect for my current emotional state threw me overboard. I began drinking and ate more xanax. then i guess i called her later and told her that she was a terrible heartless person and told her she would end up like her mother and all she could say to me is "grow up" and then this morning she called to say she was blocking my phone number. I was with this girl for 3 years, we traveled together spent every single day together and i was literally head over healls for her and she could care less now that i developed depression over the situation and my life is in the shitter... i dont know how to get over her, I have used drugs, alcohol, family, friends, to try and break out of this depression. i cant figure out how someone could be so heartless and cold to a person they used to love so much. I just dont know.

mate

why are you still barking up the wrong tree?

get a fucking hobby....you will do so much better!

you seem to enjoy talking about anal too so maybe you like guys?

oh and...

this
i dont what you should do, but im pretty sure an internet forum isnt going to help you.
if it helps, suicide is always an option



and with that, im out of here...

[cr1tt3r]

Drugs and alcohol are actually the best way out of depression actually. God, everyone knows that.