I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

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I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by WatchYourStep » Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:04 am

It makes me uncomfortable, but I feel like it shouldn't.

(i.e.: people you pass on the sidewalk, people sitting across the room, people driving in the car next to you, etc...)

Thoughts?

P.S. Yes, I know, probs a dumb thread, but I've never actually asked anyone this.
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by kaiori breathe » Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:07 am

lol, im the opposite, if somebody on the street avoids eye contact it annoys me lol, i make eye contact with everyone.

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by WatchYourStep » Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:18 am

Then what do you do? Do you smile at them or say hi or something? Surely you can't say 'hi' to everyone you pass, right?
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Post by kaiori breathe » Fri Jun 04, 2010 7:25 am

WatchYourStep wrote:Then what do you do? Do you smile at them or say hi or something? Surely you can't say 'hi' to everyone you pass, right?
I smile at women, men get a nod. Say hello to some people.

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by Phigure » Fri Jun 04, 2010 8:27 am

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WatchYourStep wrote:Then what do you do? Do you smile at them or say hi or something? Surely you can't say 'hi' to everyone you pass, right?
I smile at women, men get a nod. Say hello to some people.

Pretty much this. If you're walking down the street and a single person comes towards you, it'd be awkward as hell to not even acknowledge their presence. Kaiori put it pretty well, guys get a nod or a "hey", women get a smile and/or "hello"/"hi". But if you're walking on a crowded city street, obviously you're not going to say hello to every person that walks by.
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by hackman » Fri Jun 04, 2010 8:31 am

you'd be surprised at how unfriendly people are in england
soon as you go anywhere else in europe, people are really friendly

and i find going on the tube a nightmare, cos i just don't know where to look lol
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by DRTY » Fri Jun 04, 2010 8:54 am

hackman wrote:you'd be surprised at how unfriendly people are in england
soon as you go anywhere else in europe, people are really friendly
This is very true, but I'd extend that to the world not just Europe. People are so glum/ignorant/rude here.

Canada has been the 'publicly friendliest' place I've been to so far, I actually almost laughed at a shopkeeper because I thought they were being sarcastic. It's pretty sad really. If you smile at someone you don't know here you get a dirty look.

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by hackman » Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:33 am

yeah man
walk around in the evening in france you'll be greeted constantly by BON SOIR
round here, nuttin but paranoid glares
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by magma » Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:57 am

Depends where you are... if you walk around where my parents live (Somerset) then people always speak to you in the street... but that's on some village business.

I smile at people... if I wore a hat, I'd tip it. I've often thought about starting to wear hats just so I could tip them and occasionally remove them for ladies and passing funerals.

Actually, I talk to people on the Tube. I should probably be locked up.
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by mercules » Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:58 am

if i walked to the shops and nodded at someone i'd get "who da fuck you noddin at blud. wha you got for meh"

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Post by Pistonsbeneath » Fri Jun 04, 2010 10:07 am

i avoid looking at people as where im from it constitutes a threat :lol:
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Post by dubmatters » Fri Jun 04, 2010 11:23 am

magma wrote: Actually, I talk to people on the Tube. I should probably be locked up.
If you've ever got the drunk train from Waterloo at about midnight everyone's much more talkative.

I saw this guy (Tony Hawks from the TV)...

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by kay » Fri Jun 04, 2010 12:06 pm

magma wrote:Actually, I talk to people on the Tube. I should probably be locked up.
Ah you're one of those weirdoes eh?

I can probably count the number of times I've talked to strangers on the Tube. Mostly it's been clubbers or festival goers.

I can hold eye contact with people, but I prefer not to in case it turns into a staredown. Which I would probably win because I can literally park my eyes on something and go for a wander in my head. Also, I reserve eye contact for glaring angrily at annoying people. Having said that, my thoughts do have a tendency to wander, and next thing I know, my eyes would have auto-parked on someone else's eyes without me realising until I've stared at them for a while. Then it's a bit embarassing.

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by saphyre » Fri Jun 04, 2010 12:16 pm

New years eve on the tube was a mindfuck all these strangers talking to eachother like it was nothing, nah fuck that would you say hi or nod to a paedophile if he was walking past you o n the street?

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by magma » Fri Jun 04, 2010 12:27 pm

saphyre wrote:New years eve on the tube was a mindfuck all these strangers talking to eachother like it was nothing, nah fuck that would you say hi or nod to a paedophile if he was walking past you o n the street?
How would you know if it was a paedophile? Do they were special t shirts?

Generally I walk around assuming everyone's as nice as me unless I have a reason not to... obviously there are times and places for the screwface... I'm not walking out of Corsica Studios at 5am and starting conversations... :lol:
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by gnome » Fri Jun 04, 2010 1:00 pm

hackman wrote:you'd be surprised at how unfriendly people are in england
soon as you go anywhere else in europe, people are really friendly

and i find going on the tube a nightmare, cos i just don't know where to look lol
I find the north is very friendly. So is Northern Ireland. I'm sure kaori will agree

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by yooamatwa » Fri Jun 04, 2010 1:50 pm

Where i live people are well self centered it seems. 20 mins down the the road and on to a country walk the people you pass are always well friendly.
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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by dustywingfield » Fri Jun 04, 2010 3:17 pm

Why would you hold eye contact with a stranger in the street? Unless you're having a full conversation? :|

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Post by pets bud » Fri Jun 04, 2010 3:38 pm

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Do one of these on them when you walk by.

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Re: I can't hold eye contact w/ people unless I'm talking 2 them

Post by helix » Fri Jun 04, 2010 4:39 pm

In the south, it's pretty common for you to just wave at people you see, or acknowledge them somehow. Sometimes people will ask me if I knew whoever I waved at, and I don't even clock that it could be weird to be friendly.
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