friends with the ex

badger · Post by **badger** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:16 pm

TheEvilGirl wrote:you know after getting all emotional you will either fall back into it cuz u dont want to see them upset, or u will end up pissed off from hearing their bullshit.

heh yup did both of these: not good. you end up either leading them on into making them think it you might get back together, or just end up angry with them all the time

vonboyage · Post by **vonboyage** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:16 pm

mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry

This is true actually, lol.

theevilgirl · Post by **theevilgirl** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:17 pm

rather have better memories, rather then shitty situations...

i dont wanna resent my ex in the long run. Id rather respect their feelings, and both of our best interests.

badger · Post by **badger** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:17 pm

mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry

yeah this was exactly my problem. you end up doing/saying what you think they want which just leads them on and makes them feel worse in the long run, and usually ends up making them hate you

theevilgirl · Post by **theevilgirl** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:21 pm

badger wrote:
mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry
yeah this was exactly my problem. you end up doing/saying what you think they want which just leads them on and makes them feel worse in the long run, and usually ends up making them hate you

a little tip: Girls will do that when they want to feel victimized, then it makes you look like the bad guy. Girls are manipulative bitches. lol

deamonds · Post by **deamonds** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:21 pm

mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry

why say more, just throw a drink over them

mikey_g · Post by **mikey_g** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:23 pm

badger wrote:
mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry
yeah this was exactly my problem. you end up doing/saying what you think they want which just leads them on and makes them feel worse in the long run, and usually ends up making them hate you

no you misunderstand i think.
if im telling a lass its over shes gonna be crying and i cant kick her while shes on the floor by telling her shes weak or something. this is why 'its not you its me' is so useful as a blanket statement for that situation.

for the record not many of my ex's hate me except for the one that pretended to be preggers

badger · Post by **badger** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:24 pm

TheEvilGirl wrote:a little tip: Girls will do that when they want to feel victimized, then it makes you look like the bad guy. Girls are manipulative bitches. lol

tell me about it....

legend4ry · Post by **legend4ry** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:25 pm

amykamala wrote:so ... you think it's possible to be real friends with an ex ??

Easy peasy.

My best mate is my ex..We was friends before, realised it wasn't working and just went.. "Fuck being a couple, it ain't working" and our friendship has been stronger than ever....

Depends if there is GOOD friendship before hand I think?

deamonds · Post by **deamonds** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 3:28 pm

mikey g wrote:
badger wrote:
mikey g wrote:i find it quite difficult to say nasty things to lasses once ive already made them cry
yeah this was exactly my problem. you end up doing/saying what you think they want which just leads them on and makes them feel worse in the long run, and usually ends up making them hate you

no you misunderstand i think.
if im telling a lass its over shes gonna be crying and i cant kick her while shes on the floor by telling her shes weak or something.

would make a hilarious scene

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 4:04 pm

Legendary wrote:
amykamala wrote:so ... you think it's possible to be real friends with an ex ??

Easy peasy.

My best mate is my ex..We was friends before, realised it wasn't working and just went.. "Fuck being a couple, it ain't working" and our friendship has been stronger than ever....

Depends if there is GOOD friendship before hand I think?

this is exactly the situation for me, then again she then moved to Auz and I'm stayed in the UK so i guess that made it easier.

djelements · Post by **djelements** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 4:22 pm

Well, I mean, it depends on their replacement for you, doesn't it? It's kinda funny, my ex's new boyfriend hates me, but she and I are good friends, although it can get weird sometimes.

jah wobble · Post by **jah wobble** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:21 pm

it's my experience if you were really _more_ than friends during the relationship it is difficult and in some cases unhealthy to remain friends after a breakup. unless you got kids or a business together. if you were never really that into the person in the first place then remaining friends is easy(er). imo.

macroclimate · Post by **macroclimate** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:53 pm

I'm actually good friends with most of my exes, I try to avoid dramatic fallings-out.

It definitely gets easier with time, so I tend to be closer to ones that I dated long ago...

a man called dave · Post by **a man called dave** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:55 pm

Went to FWD with my ex last week, was hoping the bass would brake her face.

parson · Post by **parson** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:57 pm

if my exes wanna be friends they gonna have to stay out of my life for a good year or two straight

like go away and leave me alone and don't call or text or email etc etc

stop existing plz

but then we can palz and chat on aim every day

hera · Post by **hera** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 8:36 pm

lol, fuck no. my ex is a sorry sackless excuse for a man. the mear thought makes me shudder and i'm suddenly overcome with a strong odor of sulfer.

djelements · Post by **djelements** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 8:38 pm

hera wrote:lol, fuck no. my ex is a sorry sackless excuse for a man. the mear thought makes me shudder and i'm suddenly overcome with a strong odor of sulfer.

A eunuch eh? But all your exes like that? Or do you just have a single ex?

hera · Post by **hera** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 9:09 pm

DJelements wrote:
hera wrote:lol, fuck no. my ex is a sorry sackless excuse for a man. the mear thought makes me shudder and i'm suddenly overcome with a strong odor of sulfer.
A eunuch eh? But all your exes like that? Or do you just have a single ex?

i only have a few real exes. 2 are eunuchs, ones a crackhead, ones filthy rich, and the others were in high school and i never let hit it, so they dont really count.

djelements · Post by **djelements** » Fri Apr 04, 2008 9:10 pm

hera wrote:
DJelements wrote:
hera wrote:lol, fuck no. my ex is a sorry sackless excuse for a man. the mear thought makes me shudder and i'm suddenly overcome with a strong odor of sulfer.
A eunuch eh? But all your exes like that? Or do you just have a single ex?
i only have a few real exes. 2 are eunuchs, ones a crackhead, ones filthy rich, and the others were in high school and i never let hit it, so they dont really count.

Ah. If I was in your situation I'd mooch off the filthy rich one under the guise of "friendship", unless he was actually my friend, then I'd still mooch.

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