bellybelle wrote:Delendi wrote:we forget that we're animals whose purpose is to reproduce. just like lions and reindeer we look for the strongest, healthiest partner because it's in our reproductive mindset to make strong healthy babies. even coming down to things like teeth... wonky teeth get food stuck in, making teeth rot, making them fall out, making eating hard and the owner of the no-more teeth become dependant on others (in back to nature times, before dentures). we subconsciously want a strong bloodline the same as animals do. it's all a big old courtship ritual, confused by relationships.
I guess...but wouldn't that mean that men would choose women who had a higher hip to waist ratio than whats more popular now? I mean, as much as we are partially programmed by biology, we also can't ignore the rapid changes in standards of beauty for women. In the 1970's, women were curvier, bustier, softly shaped and yadda yadda. If you look at the women who were "gorgeous" just 20-30 yrs ago and compare them to today's women, they are average nowadays. I loved that thread about the Original Hottie Gyal, because those ladies are absolutely beautiful, but I also know that quite a few of those gorgeous ladies would be passed over and made to do Camryn Manheim best friend roles to the hot girl roles in movies.
Shame really. If good ladies and gents could just find each other and leave the shallow, vapid people to their own, this wouldn't be much of a problem. Good girls and good guys can find decent people and not spend their time wondering why things aren't workin' out...
Hear hear!
Thank GOD real people arent always how the media would have us believe, I say. The world would be a seriously boring place if everyone was attracted to the same thing to be honest - not to mention the lack of genetic diversity would grind the entire evolutionary process to a halt.
The way images and looks are pushed in the media is unrealistic - some group of people in a room basically deciding what everyone should like this year and that's what people should aspire to. As technology develops, the images that are fed are often surgically induced or given a quick sortout with photoshop. It's human nature to compete/compare themselves by certain standards. If those standards happen to be purely on looks, it's no wonder there's so many issues as people try to compare themselves on a daily basis with a package that has probably spent 2hours in makeup, had a few nips and tucks, had their zits photoshopped out and doesn't actually have anything to do all day except produce an image accordingly (i am generalising). That's their job. It's a billion dollar industry that doesnt mess about in staying that way. (NB: this isn't exclusively a female issue - guys are constantly fed an image of six packs and material wealth as a sign of success). Fortunately, what is forcefed in the media doesn't always correspond to everyone's idea of their personal "strongest" or "fittest".
Personally I'd rather spend any length of quality time with positive people that make me laugh and I can chill out/ be comfortable and have a decent conversation with. If someone choses not to be interested (as a friend or anything more) in me purely because of how I look, that's their choice and their right - but I cant imagine it would have ever been a very productive relationship on that basis. It can be upsetting or affects one's confidence if you see that as the only sign of your worth.
On the subject of this thread, I am the total opposite- the second I realise a guy may be attached- it's just fundamentally a no go area.
