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Re: Girlfriends

Post by Rydher » Tue Nov 08, 2011 5:57 pm

This is interesting because I've just dealt with the same problem (balancing a relationship and music production AS well as looking for a professional job) and it's almost comforting to see that it's a common characteristic for those dedicated to their music to spend every minute they can on it.
It also shows, though, that there needs to be balance. Everything about life is about keeping it near equilibrium, moving forward but still balanced (not complete equilibrium because then that means death :P), and in order to have a healthy music life, love life, and any other life, there needs to be a balance. I've tried doing this by scheduling. For X amount of hours I spend time dedicated to networking, another x hours is for production (I try to keep it like a job during the week, and a hobby on the weekends, so it plays both roles, lol), and family&friends need us/we need them too, so for a weekend I spend x amount of hours hanging out with them and during the week I make it a point to cook for my parents & sisters and have family dinners. Then the obvious x for a relationship.
Though I will be honest, I decided that I would rather spend more time on my music production, so it is also about compromise, and I decided that my love affair with music was more important to me than the relationship I had at the time. If you all think girls are needy, don't fool yourself in to thinking men can't be needy, too :P.

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by The Riot Act » Tue Nov 08, 2011 6:00 pm

FruitFlesh wrote:I got into producing recently because of my guy and we just split up last Friday. I actually loved the fact that he was into his music and massively supported him. I wouldn't have wanted him to give up at all as I'm a musician myself. He said that production and a relationship wouldn't have worked together, but if you have someone who supports and understands you then that's a good thing, surely. Anyway, his mind was made up and right now I guess I'm still trying to get over it, haven't really slept/eaten much last few days. On the brightside if it wasn't for him, I never would have gotten into producing but yeah, would be nice to meet someone into the same stuff again and loved me completely :(
Wow a girl that produces! :D I would love to see a guy/girl production combination.

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by bassinine » Tue Nov 08, 2011 6:06 pm

produce while she's at work. done, and done.

i don't get shit done on sundays or mondays though, when we're both off work.

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by -AudioSoma- » Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:25 pm

FruitFlesh wrote:I got into producing recently because of my guy and we just split up last Friday. I actually loved the fact that he was into his music and massively supported him. I wouldn't have wanted him to give up at all as I'm a musician myself. He said that production and a relationship wouldn't have worked together, but if you have someone who supports and understands you then that's a good thing, surely. Anyway, his mind was made up and right now I guess I'm still trying to get over it, haven't really slept/eaten much last few days. On the brightside if it wasn't for him, I never would have gotten into producing but yeah, would be nice to meet someone into the same stuff again and loved me completely :(
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by Lichee » Tue Nov 08, 2011 8:09 pm

-AudioSoma- wrote:
FruitFlesh wrote:I got into producing recently because of my guy and we just split up last Friday. I actually loved the fact that he was into his music and massively supported him. I wouldn't have wanted him to give up at all as I'm a musician myself. He said that production and a relationship wouldn't have worked together, but if you have someone who supports and understands you then that's a good thing, surely. Anyway, his mind was made up and right now I guess I'm still trying to get over it, haven't really slept/eaten much last few days. On the brightside if it wasn't for him, I never would have gotten into producing but yeah, would be nice to meet someone into the same stuff again and loved me completely :(
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by drooka » Tue Nov 08, 2011 8:18 pm

The Riot Act wrote:
FruitFlesh wrote:I got into producing recently because of my guy and we just split up last Friday. I actually loved the fact that he was into his music and massively supported him. I wouldn't have wanted him to give up at all as I'm a musician myself. He said that production and a relationship wouldn't have worked together, but if you have someone who supports and understands you then that's a good thing, surely. Anyway, his mind was made up and right now I guess I'm still trying to get over it, haven't really slept/eaten much last few days. On the brightside if it wasn't for him, I never would have gotten into producing but yeah, would be nice to meet someone into the same stuff again and loved me completely :(
Wow a girl that produces! :D I would love to see a guy/girl production combination.
not sure how much would get done....

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by deadly_habit » Tue Nov 08, 2011 8:51 pm

drooka wrote:
The Riot Act wrote:
FruitFlesh wrote:I got into producing recently because of my guy and we just split up last Friday. I actually loved the fact that he was into his music and massively supported him. I wouldn't have wanted him to give up at all as I'm a musician myself. He said that production and a relationship wouldn't have worked together, but if you have someone who supports and understands you then that's a good thing, surely. Anyway, his mind was made up and right now I guess I'm still trying to get over it, haven't really slept/eaten much last few days. On the brightside if it wasn't for him, I never would have gotten into producing but yeah, would be nice to meet someone into the same stuff again and loved me completely :(
Wow a girl that produces! :D I would love to see a guy/girl production combination.
not sure how much would get done....
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by CE9958 » Tue Nov 08, 2011 9:15 pm

Its kinda the worst. I have a girlfriend long distance and whenever she's here (spends usually 3-5 days here at a time) I don't get shit done. At first its cool cause I'm like "Yes girlfriends here! Time to get down!" but after a while all I want to do is sit there and stare at my computer screen turning knobs for 4 hours in the dark. Obviously she's not a fan of this because that equates to her just sitting around doing nothing. She's not from around here so she doesn't know people or anything and is pretty much with me 24/7. As great as having a girlfriend is, I hate feeling like I can't get shit done when she's around.
vonboyage wrote:I was @ her house for 3 weeks recently..

Obviously didnt get ANYTHING done, felt tempted to install some software, mind.

Or usually im in the middle of a tune, and i know i'm supposed to BE there, and she's ringing off my phone sumthin frantic wondering where i am.

ERGO -

Dont have a girlfriend if your serious about music lol. :lol:
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by mitchAUS » Wed Nov 09, 2011 4:02 pm

CE9958 wrote:Its kinda the worst. I have a girlfriend long distance and whenever she's here (spends usually 3-5 days here at a time) I don't get shit done. At first its cool cause I'm like "Yes girlfriends here! Time to get down!" but after a while all I want to do is sit there and stare at my computer screen turning knobs for 4 hours in the dark. Obviously she's not a fan of this because that equates to her just sitting around doing nothing. She's not from around here so she doesn't know people or anything and is pretty much with me 24/7. As great as having a girlfriend is, I hate feeling like I can't get shit done when she's around.
vonboyage wrote:I was @ her house for 3 weeks recently..

Obviously didnt get ANYTHING done, felt tempted to install some software, mind.

Or usually im in the middle of a tune, and i know i'm supposed to BE there, and she's ringing off my phone sumthin frantic wondering where i am.

ERGO -

Dont have a girlfriend if your serious about music lol. :lol:

This is the hard truth.
That's me within a few hours of her coming over, so desperate to get back to writing tunes....
But since she left I've spent most my time watching red bull academy lectures and on DSF, go figure.

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by Phase Down » Wed Nov 09, 2011 4:07 pm

Living with my girlfriend, I guess I got it easy, can make music whenever I want, sometimes she'll be annoying because she'll be like "this sounds shit" when i'm just creating a sound and its like arrghh, but she's pretty good about all of it and I've actually made a track with her before, she understands cubase because of how often I show her things so very rarely she gets up to creating some weird shit for an intro which is pretty cool.

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by CE9958 » Wed Nov 09, 2011 8:34 pm

mitchAUS wrote:
CE9958 wrote:Its kinda the worst. I have a girlfriend long distance and whenever she's here (spends usually 3-5 days here at a time) I don't get shit done. At first its cool cause I'm like "Yes girlfriends here! Time to get down!" but after a while all I want to do is sit there and stare at my computer screen turning knobs for 4 hours in the dark. Obviously she's not a fan of this because that equates to her just sitting around doing nothing. She's not from around here so she doesn't know people or anything and is pretty much with me 24/7. As great as having a girlfriend is, I hate feeling like I can't get shit done when she's around.
vonboyage wrote:I was @ her house for 3 weeks recently..

Obviously didnt get ANYTHING done, felt tempted to install some software, mind.

Or usually im in the middle of a tune, and i know i'm supposed to BE there, and she's ringing off my phone sumthin frantic wondering where i am.

ERGO -

Dont have a girlfriend if your serious about music lol. :lol:

This is the hard truth.
That's me within a few hours of her coming over, so desperate to get back to writing tunes....
But since she left I've spent most my time watching red bull academy lectures and on DSF, go figure.

Story of my life bro. Look at me right here on DSF just the same lol... Just want what we can't have man thats all there is to it :u:
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by bassdubba » Wed Nov 09, 2011 9:56 pm

Let the bitch know who's boss!!! and if she doesnt like it, another will, there's plenty of girls everywhere :D

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by deadly_habit » Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:07 am

bassdubba wrote:Let the bitch know who's boss!!! and if she doesnt like it, another will, there's plenty of girls everywhere :D
what are you 12?

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by CE9958 » Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:10 am

deadly habit wrote:
bassdubba wrote:Let the bitch know who's boss!!! and if she doesnt like it, another will, there's plenty of girls everywhere :D
what are you 12?
lol.

Im sticking to my words man. We all just want what we can't have. When the GF isn't around I wanna be with her... when she is.... I wanna make dubstep... lol such is life i guess. :?
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by deadly_habit » Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:14 am

it's all about compromise and balance, such is life when you get older and meet someone who you actually care about

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by CE9958 » Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:40 am

deadly habit wrote:it's all about compromise and balance, such is life when you get older and meet someone who you actually care about
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by Sparxy » Thu Nov 10, 2011 2:37 pm

My GF honours my interests and understands I've gotta do what makes me happy. I think it just annoys her that she can't share something I have so much interest in, she just wants to be involved where she can in my life and production is certainly something we can't share unfortunately!

I rarely find time to produce these days, I tend to just squeeze it in any spare gaps I get. It's just annoying when I get a spare few hours and I have no inspiration. Those moments of inspiration only ever tend to come when I have something important to do!

It's hard balancing everything but it can be done. I blame my job mainly. I work long hours, get paid fuck all and I hate it. But what can you do? We all need to pay the rent and if I didn't work I wouldn't be able to afford any studio gear anyway

Shit's tough!

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Re: Girlfriends

Post by legend4ry » Thu Nov 10, 2011 3:08 pm

Coming back onto this subject, as me and my mrs have been moved in together for a few months now...You just gotta set up a routine!

Like right now, shes coming home from Uni; I have tidied up and have prepared dinner for tonight - started a little something on fruity which has been on loop for the last 30-40 minutes while I prepared/cleaned.

I'll meet her from the station; probably watch some Twin Peaks - have dinner, watch another episode or something then when it hits about 9pm. I'll put my headphones on and crack on till about 11 and then spend time as shes getting ready for sleep - if I ain't tired i'll go back on the computer when shes asleep.

Haven't had one disagreement or arguement about me making music or DJing... If she asks me to not go make music one night; i'll just save up my ideas till the wee-hours (I don't do much sleeping these days..) when I wake up and do it then.. I haven't made more music than I have recently!


Without judging anyone - i think if I was with anyone else (someone who I didn't actually want to be with and just settled) it wouldn't be like that! If you're having problems its probably a choice of partners and lets be honest its not hard finding someone to get your kicks. Commitment to someone should be a natural thing, meaning you'll support their hobbies and interests and they'll support yours..

Not going to lie; I don't exactly enjoy going to fashion events (pop up shop openings/new season launches, etc,etc) but I do it cause its what you do innit.

Juggling your own interests and someone elses isn't hard if you respect/care for the person.

Just me 2 sappy cents.
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by drooka » Thu Nov 10, 2011 4:28 pm

legend4ry wrote:Coming back onto this subject, as me and my mrs have been moved in together for a few months now...You just gotta set up a routine!

Like right now, shes coming home from Uni; I have tidied up and have prepared dinner for tonight - started a little something on fruity which has been on loop for the last 30-40 minutes while I prepared/cleaned.

I'll meet her from the station; probably watch some Twin Peaks - have dinner, watch another episode or something then when it hits about 9pm. I'll put my headphones on and crack on till about 11 and then spend time as shes getting ready for sleep - if I ain't tired i'll go back on the computer when shes asleep.

Haven't had one disagreement or arguement about me making music or DJing... If she asks me to not go make music one night; i'll just save up my ideas till the wee-hours (I don't do much sleeping these days..) when I wake up and do it then.. I haven't made more music than I have recently!


Without judging anyone - i think if I was with anyone else (someone who I didn't actually want to be with and just settled) it wouldn't be like that! If you're having problems its probably a choice of partners and lets be honest its not hard finding someone to get your kicks. Commitment to someone should be a natural thing, meaning you'll support their hobbies and interests and they'll support yours..

Not going to lie; I don't exactly enjoy going to fashion events (pop up shop openings/new season launches, etc,etc) but I do it cause its what you do innit.

Juggling your own interests and someone elses isn't hard if you respect/care for the person.

Just me 2 sappy cents.
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Re: Girlfriends

Post by mitchAUS » Thu Nov 10, 2011 4:38 pm

legend4ry wrote:Coming back onto this subject, as me and my mrs have been moved in together for a few months now...You just gotta set up a routine!

Like right now, shes coming home from Uni; I have tidied up and have prepared dinner for tonight - started a little something on fruity which has been on loop for the last 30-40 minutes while I prepared/cleaned.

I'll meet her from the station; probably watch some Twin Peaks - have dinner, watch another episode or something then when it hits about 9pm. I'll put my headphones on and crack on till about 11 and then spend time as shes getting ready for sleep - if I ain't tired i'll go back on the computer when shes asleep.

Haven't had one disagreement or arguement about me making music or DJing... If she asks me to not go make music one night; i'll just save up my ideas till the wee-hours (I don't do much sleeping these days..) when I wake up and do it then.. I haven't made more music than I have recently!


Without judging anyone - i think if I was with anyone else (someone who I didn't actually want to be with and just settled) it wouldn't be like that! If you're having problems its probably a choice of partners and lets be honest its not hard finding someone to get your kicks. Commitment to someone should be a natural thing, meaning you'll support their hobbies and interests and they'll support yours..

Not going to lie; I don't exactly enjoy going to fashion events (pop up shop openings/new season launches, etc,etc) but I do it cause its what you do innit.

Juggling your own interests and someone elses isn't hard if you respect/care for the person.

Just me 2 sappy cents.
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