The Being Single Appreciation Thread

theevilgirl · Post by **theevilgirl** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 7:25 am

Slim wrote:
TheEvilGirl wrote:yea....

no having to answer to anyone...

no having to explain anything...

making your own choices...

no fights over stupid shit...

...

When people say shit like this i wonder what kind of piss poor relationships people have been in.

well if u think about it...as negative as that all sounds when you are in a relationship you have to take your partner into consideration with almost everything you do....

you want to go to a party....you have to mention it to them...that could possibly determine whether or not you go....if you go, without them knowing...you have to call and tell them...if you dont call you have to deal with the 'why didnt you call?' conversation....if you dont go you might possibly resent them for the night cuz you really wanted to go...if you go with them you run multiple risks....them not liking this party...them talking to someone you dont like...you getting jealous or vice versa...an arguement arising out of almost all of these outcomes....

now if you go out and its mutual and you have a great time....fan-fuckin-tastic....but generally the upper scenario may occur.

it is no longer completely YOUR OWN choice....

i can decide if i want to go or not...who i want to speak to...what time i want to go home...and not have to worry about making a call or anything...

im not saying its all bad but...its not the same.

nesslei · Post by **nesslei** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 8:32 am

felixGash wrote:
nesslei wrote:i see your game. pussy tease.

Ha! You've got lyrics, girl.

they're better in the bedroom, but you wouldn't know, you missed that opp didn't ya son?

nesslei · Post by **nesslei** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 8:33 am

Ashley wrote:Ill marry you ness as a gesture of goodwill to help you restore your confidence after felixGash's rejection. You can have me drunk or sober...

dreams are free ash, dreams are free.

ashley · Post by **ashley** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 8:37 am

nesslei wrote:
Ashley wrote:Ill marry you ness as a gesture of goodwill to help you restore your confidence after felixGash's rejection. You can have me drunk or sober...
dreams are free ash, dreams are free.

Heartless cow

drksteppa · Post by **drksteppa** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 8:57 am

no comment.

NEXT

nesslei · Post by **nesslei** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 9:06 am

drksteppa wrote:no comment.

NEXT

jazzamataz · Post by **jazzamataz** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:00 am

bellybelle wrote:
deamonds wrote:i know, blusky...tee hee

im not saying couples are bad or i am dissagreeing btw, id love to have a regular girlfriend, i just havent met someone i could tolerate being that close with..

saying that as modest as possible by the way..
i took a year off from my last to now. every guy i had been with in the last 10 years cheated or lied or proved to be dishonest. i shoulda spent the time by myself but i got trapped in the idea that i had to be with someone to count. to be whole. to matter. it was silly really.

i spent so much time trying to be with someone that i didn't pay attention to what i wanted or what made me happy. thats no good. that was really shitty, actually. i really should have just been by myself and figured out who i was.

just be happy being who you are. i want people to be happy. in or out of a relationship, the most important one we can ever have is the relationship we have with ourselves.

THAT sounds so familiar it's untrue.
My first long term GF (age 16, for a year and half) slept with someone close to me within days of us breaking up, and it screwed me up royally for a year or so...

I've spent this last year being alone and working on what I need in myself as well as a partner... I think i've come to a good understanding of myself, the problem is, i think my expectation of a good partner is a bit too demanding... It seems that someone with intelligence, a sense of humor, and the ability to be somewhat independant is asking too much.

nesslei · Post by **nesslei** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:08 am

Jazzamataz wrote: It seems that someone with intelligence, a sense of humor, and the ability to be somewhat independant is asking too much.

no, it's not... it's just more rare.

jazzamataz · Post by **jazzamataz** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:17 am

nesslei wrote:
Jazzamataz wrote: It seems that someone with intelligence, a sense of humor, and the ability to be somewhat independant is asking too much.
no, it's not... it's just more rare.

This is true.

I also worked out that a lot of people (including myself, previously) like to find "broken," people and try to fix them.. a few past relationships and friendships have been with people that don't seem to be all there for one reason or another.
It's quite astounding the amount of people that go for a "Florence Nightingale,"-esque relationship with people they KNOW will be bad for them in the long run. I wonder if it's unconcious thought that draws one person to another in these types of scenarios... hmmm...

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:20 am

I am not appriciating being single at the mo.

I miss the sex, and the physical closeness, and the companionship, the understanding and empathy, the comfort, the anticipation, that feeling of being wanted, needed, desired.

kins83 · Post by **kins83** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:22 am

I feel like I'm halfway between single and not at the moment, which is working out pretty well at the mo.

deamonds · Post by **deamonds** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:26 am

single is the lonliest adjective there is....

ashley · Post by **ashley** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:28 am

deamonds wrote:single is the lonliest adjective there is....

Nah, alone is

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:30 am

"...but there's nothing as lonley as the adjective single"...

dosn't have the same ring to it does it

felixgash · Post by **felixgash** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:39 am

I'm 22 and I've never been in a relationship where I truly 'loved' the girl - they've never lasted more than about 3 months, tops, and 'girlfriend' isnt really a word in my vocab. I tend to be "seeing" someone for a couple months, before it's over.

Saying that, if I find a girl I think is 'right' then I'm not adverse to a proper relationship. I just don't have the luck I guess.. or maybe I'm just so used to not being in one that I can't ever get that deep into one.. meh..

kins83 · Post by **kins83** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:42 am

^ So do you just sort of lose interest and things fizzle out?

deamonds · Post by **deamonds** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:44 am

im in love at the minute, she just doesnt know it yet..one of them ones..

kins83 · Post by **kins83** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:44 am

deamonds wrote:im in love at the minute, she just doesnt know it yet..one of them ones..

you gonna do something about it? Maybe when you get the lambo?

jazzamataz · Post by **jazzamataz** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:46 am

kins83 wrote:
deamonds wrote:im in love at the minute, she just doesnt know it yet..one of them ones..
you gonna do something about it? Maybe when you get the lambo?

or cut up her rabbit and feed it to her in a stew...

nesslei · Post by **nesslei** » Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:48 am

felixGash wrote:maybe I'm just so used to not being in one that I can't ever get that deep into one.. meh..

i hear ya. i'm starting to wonder whether i'm becoming too comfortable in my singledom as well! at least the only person i have to worry about in that conundrum is me... hehe.

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