In this example I can match the top waveform to the middle of the top line with the next part of the waveform slightly lower so it's right against the beginning of the bar:

But then when I move the dB up to say 20, that part that was matched up to the top line is now not matched:

I think I've been doing it all wrong I am trying to do it visually then aurally and if it doesn't sound good I usually move it till it sounds good but then the visual doesn't look very nice...
As for transients.. How do you identify/locate them? Whenever I zoom in to see a spike that is easier to see when not zoomed it it just stretches out so its hard to find where it starts, and then we are back to the problem where if I do find a start and I turn the dB up, it's no longer matched up with the top or bottom line....
I feel like such a noob but I guess I've never really asked about it till now and everytime I try to read a book I can't understand the way the people communicate because Im not very smart like them, I can only understand in simple terms and its hard to find someone in the audio world who is willing to teach me on my level
Sometimes I think im a redneck or something T_T