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Personally i think it totally depends on the situation and the person. Without going in to to much detail I've been cheated on and i found out about it a year and half after the fact. The cheating part is horrible the thought of it etc. but the worst thing is the lie. Covering it up and not having the balls to come clean for over a year is pretty despicable and I know personally i couldn't keep that to myself.

To be honest though were all human we all make mistakes, it was a one time fuck up. We're still together, yeah the relationship is different and when i see the guy she fucked in a couple of months its going to take a lot of effort to not do something stupid but i figure everyone deserves a second chance.

How the fuck
we ever gonna have sprouts
if we don't cop the ol lady havin a fling.

After all,
we're expecting her
to tolerate us (me)
for the rest of her natural.

I say:
go for it love.
The better the root,
the less competition for me

cos it's a dream she's fucking
like it's a dream I wank to.
I'm real.
If she's realistic, I'm real.

I like marriage,
at the appropriate time,
cos it's about believing,
in love beyond whatever.

thoughts on the given subject:

nothing cool about getting cheated on, but the worst part is where hate's consuming you.
i have been lucky though.
got cheated on years ago, and got in touch with her recently again when i was confused about my then current relationship.
girl that cheated on me, i can talk to her now again.
we're both different persons.
there's no issue anymore, but we're not best friends either.
and i'm happy.
i can see her at a party now and talk with her like with any other person, and i feel no hatred towards anymore.
which is cool because i hate negative feelings.

Takes a while to get over, and its a really shit feeling finding out.

Whether or not to end the relationship over it, depends on the situation I guess, 9 times out of 10 I'd break it off though.

I've never cheated and never been cheated on either. It's a pretty disgraceful thing to be doing, why are you in a relationship if you feel the need to cheat? Doesn't make any sense what so ever.

Also, if i ever found out a mate of mine had been shagging my bird behind my back i'd smash his fucking teeth in. Cheating is one thing, but shagging your mates bird? Unholy.

nobody owns somebody else

if your partner needs to fuck someone else
it's a part of their nature that you deal with
otherwise no-one would love them

if you need to fuck someone else
well
you're bored & wanting to feel attractive
or can't resist hormones on the breeze

not ideal re one's ego
nor the hurt
but that's the animal world.

sd5 wrote:nobody owns somebody else........

but that's the animal world.

Yeah this is true I don't own anyone else. As far as im concerned though hurting someone else is a bad thing, end of...and being cheated on fucking hurts I certainly wouldn't expect the closest person to do something like that if they really gave a shit about me.

I really think the 'Animal kingdom' analogy is such a cop out usually used by people who cheat a lot. Its such a shit excuse as well, yes we all have the urges to fuck but being a sentient Human being I have the choice to act or not act on this urge.

yooamatwa wrote: I really think the 'Animal kingdom' analogy is such a cop out usually used by people who cheat a lot. Its such a shit excuse as well, yes we all have the urges to fuck but being a sentient Human being I have the choice to act or not act on this urge.

totally agreed on.
plus people using an excuse like that are usually not hippies who buy their food at a bio store but people who accept every other kind of unnatural comfort invented by people.
like cars, tv, cigarettes, synthetic food,...

AFAIK I have never been cheated on, but I have cheated on a girl and been the third party (much to my shame but I was young and daft with a cock full of cum). Then when I could have had a relationship with said girl, I realised that if she cheated on her b/f then she'd quite likely cheat on me too - so I kept it as friends who sleep together and sure enough... she went out with someone else and continued to cheat on him to several other people.

The worst part isn't the act, which it's self is horrible, it's the lying and acting. I have never cheated on anyone since and I don't intend to, but I feel for her b/f, he's a dick but how she can kiss him when she had her lips around my cock just hours before... fucked up.

edit: spelling

yooamatwa wrote:Personally i think it totally depends on the situation and the person. Without going in to to much detail I've been cheated on and i found out about it a year and half after the fact. The cheating part is horrible the thought of it etc. but the worst thing is the lie. Covering it up and not having the balls to come clean for over a year is pretty despicable and I know personally i couldn't keep that to myself.

To be honest though were all human we all make mistakes, it was a one time fuck up. We're still together, yeah the relationship is different and when i see the guy she fucked in a couple of months its going to take a lot of effort to not do something stupid but i figure everyone deserves a second chance.

Said like a man who knows.

i'm right now in a 'open relationship' (you call it like that in english?). i'm too young to safe myself for one woman. but i love her. it's jst that sex doesn't necessary have to be a thing of big emotions and love.

and honestly i just don't feel ready to live monogam.

this solution is a 1000x better than cheating. i have always been honest to my bird and she has been honest to me. can't be better tbh

vulvavibration wrote:i'm right now in a 'open relationship' (you call it like that in english?). i'm too young to safe myself for one woman. but i love her. it's jst that sex doesn't necessary have to be a thing of big emotions and love.

I know people in open relationships, outwardly they seem to be alright. I reckon you have to have the right sort of temperament and outlook on life. Personally I'm not sure if i could handle it Ultimately is it ever just sex though, things always seem to get messy one way or the other.

reap the benefits and then bang her friend/sister or mother if nice enough...

yooamatwa wrote:

vulvavibration wrote:i'm right now in a 'open relationship' (you call it like that in english?). i'm too young to safe myself for one woman. but i love her. it's jst that sex doesn't necessary have to be a thing of big emotions and love.

I know people in open relationships, outwardly they seem to be alright. I reckon you have to have the right sort of temperament and outlook on life. Personally I'm not sure if i could handle it Ultimately is it ever just sex though, things always seem to get messy one way or the other.

be clear from the beginning and it will not get messy. and most important: don't mess around in other girls emotions. if she wants sex too, then have it. if she wants flowers and a child, don't

vulvavibration wrote:i'm right now in a 'open relationship' (you call it like that in english?). i'm too young to safe myself for one woman. but i love her. it's jst that sex doesn't necessary have to be a thing of big emotions and love.

and honestly i just don't feel ready to live monogam.

this solution is a 1000x better than cheating. i have always been honest to my bird and she has been honest to me. can't be better tbh

I'd like to think I'm the same way, but jealousy can ruin any relationship.

gwa wrote:I've cheated and been cheated on, it's inevitable thy it will happen at some point in your life. it hurts more than anything else, I would never put someone in that situation again

this

makes you totally insane

Helix [Delay] wrote:

vulvavibration wrote:i'm right now in a 'open relationship' (you call it like that in english?). i'm too young to safe myself for one woman. but i love her. it's jst that sex doesn't necessary have to be a thing of big emotions and love.

and honestly i just don't feel ready to live monogam.

this solution is a 1000x better than cheating. i have always been honest to my bird and she has been honest to me. can't be better tbh

I'd like to think I'm the same way, but jealousy can ruin any relationship.

so true!
but it works. and actually i trust her more than any other girl before.

steppo wrote:

gwa wrote:I've cheated and been cheated on, it's inevitable thy it will happen at some point in your life. it hurts more than anything else, I would never put someone in that situation again

this

makes you totally insane

makes him human.

Been cheated on twice (well in the past,) and been the 3rd party once (quite recently).

Never cheated on someone, probably never will. Don't see the point in it - If I'm not happy
at least I'm kind enough to let someone know and fix the problem or walk away from it if it's
impossible to fix.