DISCLAIMER : THIS IS MY VERY SUBJECTIVE (hopefully) OPINION.
Have a relationship is way more important than producing anyway... Imho.
Having a relationship is NOT more important that producing anyway... Imho.
haha. dont want to troll.. ill say that : to me they're the same. and im sure that to u they're as well… relationships are important.
Transfer-oriented therapists conceive inanimate objects as being transfer-worthy, as they allow us to stick our inner emotions against a thing, a concept, a craft. They end up acting as a metaphor of how we interact with things, and ultimately, they turn out to be a relationship with our own Self. Our creations/creative process are us. and we often apprehend what we create the same way we apprehend our own selves…
Relationships with others and self-relationships are interdependent to the highest degree… and i don't think anyone could argue about that. So to me, ur either both wrong or both right.
Now, OP.
blatantly discrediting someone's opinion because they don't know about something or because they have different taste, lesser interest at one thing, is about as smart as discrediting something someone has made without knowing shit about that thing : they're the same to me.
does she know about music at all? is she tone def? was she angry at you? did she get discredited her entire life? was she so spoiled and raised in exuberance that she can't even appreciate things without them being a token of social approbation (trends, mainstream)? do u really think your song is that good? are you always talking about your music? are you discrediting other people's music or work… do you think dubstep is better then poppy rap songs? did you bang her recently enough?
i think its all in the way she said it. and that has to do with your entire relationship...
If your girl was rude to u, the problem may be of other nature then the song itself. if ur girl discredits things she doesn't even know about as if they had no value whatsoever, the problem is probably of other nature… she may be a pure turd (and even that can be cured, as long as u know she's a turd).
i think its an important question to ask ourselves, what type of girlfriend does that? it depends on a million factors, the first one being (imo) what you present urself as… are u obnoxious about your music? do u think you're doing it? was it hard to hear? people can be very mundane towards art…
but is it really the question here?
and if it were, here's my two cent : people often fail at emotions because they dont get that contradictions can, and will coexist… it may be because of a million things… it probably is.. and you should be able to understand what these things mean, its no big deal, as long as u have a good relationship with yourself…
a lot of people think they are All that because they Make music, and don't care about doing music. they end up being very nerdy, and obnoxious, tweakheads, they often end up frustrating the people that surround them… and fail at giving a meaning to their music
a lot of people think they are Doing music yet, don't know how to Make music sound good. their stuff sounds noobish at best and often take it very personal when someone tells them their music "sucks".
there are solutions to that… this forum is one.
My biggest criteria in music has always been to make my mom love it. With my gf i got into the same task… music is about emotions, most girls have emotions.
my girlfriend wouldn't vibe to everything i listen to. She doesn't even love music, i mean, she likes singing.. but music… however, she can tell, by deduction, if something is worthless.. or not. Maybe not on the very first shot, but after a little discussion, she will.
Here's my opinion :
Op, your girlfriend was rude and non supportive. she hurt you and u cant just insult what people do. u just can't do that.. you can blame her for that.
but you can't blame her for one thing. honesty. even if she's not necessarily right, that girl seems to be one of the few people ull meet in ur life, that'll tell you the truth. People, as ive said, are so mundane and politically correct with art criticism towards their close ones that it makes me sick.. everytime i watch american idol i want to kill someone… i personally have to be my own critique (that for me, went a little too far)… and i Always admire people who are straightforward. there's nothing worse then avoidance in relationships. confronting is often done whackly, but if it's done, its ten times better then avoidance, if you want to argue about that, go ahead and do it, i have arguments for ages.
Dude, your tune does sound amateurish. it does. However it has its own style. u lack the technical knowledge, and u want to express emotions thru music, but that has lots to do with technique… think of a writer. without the intention, itll sound snobbish and brainy, yet you need skills to avoid things from getting in the way of ur message…
there's stuff getting in the way of the message of your tune. Mixing, for instance, is quite bad on it. and mixing is, to me, amongst the most important steps towards emotional relevance (meaning) in a song. it can give it a purpose… or blur it …
u could do two things. tell her you do realize that u need to imporve, and that it does suck to a certain extend. but tell her how much it means to u.. and how poorly she said it, and both u and her will be able to move forward and give ur art the extra drive it needs for improvement.
dont stop making music.
/emo
