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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:29 am
by bellybelle
sapphic_beats wrote:Well the saddest thing about this whole mess (meaning the latent racism that has reared its head in the midst of the Prop 8 BS), is that I think it has allowed so-called progressives an avenue to express what I think may have been laying just underneath the surface regarding race.

For those "progressives", it would have been bad strategy to talk about Obama in a negative light, but this cracked open those barely sealed feelings and allowed them to fester and get thrown on people with less power and less visibility.

However, to play Devil's Advocate, even though I think the numbers that have been bandied about regarding the black vote's role in Prop 8 are misleading (the percentage of black voters in their own demographic who voted yes were high, but they were NOT the lion's share of the vote, no matter how many ways you slice it), I think there is some very visceral anger on the part of the gay community (which, it has to be pointed out again and again, also includes people of color. i know you know this, belly; just pointing it out for those who seem to forget) because of the inability to understand how anyone who has been oppressed can then support oppression. It is confusing, on an emotional level, and it is not being dealt with well.

It's complex, and it's messy, and there are too many intersections to regard any of the players as a simple, monolithic representation of ONE group only. And even with the protests against churches, there is too much anger and too little dissection and discussion of the role that the church plays in society, in community and in politics. And that, I think, is a stone that cannot be left unturned.

I hope we can get through this with some deep, from the heart dialogue, but right now the feelings are at a high pitch, and that makes logical thought and listening tougher to accomplish.
You know I'm right there with you when it comes to oppression in general. And religion plays a stupidly large role in this. Yes its definitely sad that it didn't go through. And yes, its sad that a substantial portion of the black population in Cali voted against gay marriage. I voted for it here in FL and was grossly outnumbered. At least I tried, y'know?

What peeves me about this is that there are myriad reasons for the way white voters vote but there is only one for blacks. So while there are white voters who did not vote for Obama for a whole host of reasons (Republican history, worries about fiscal responsibility, religious ideology, and for some even race *gasp* etc.), there doesn't seem to be this same spectrum afforded to how black people vote. Instead its just simplified as black people wanting the right to oppress another group, when the truth of the matter is that for the majority of black americans, religion plays a HUGE role when interpreting homosexuality.....a lot more than is given credit, especially when combined with the less than favorable depiction of black people in the media as being these promiscuous, unlawful, lazy, illiterate renegades. Something has to change because Obama was elected and is solid proof that skin color/race is not a real deterrent or explanation of behavior---and whats changed is the strategy to prove that he's an anomaly and not the standard.

In the South, black votes would have greatly been outnumbered by the amount of white conservatives running to the polls to guarantee that gay people didn't have the right to marry, adopt, share equally. However, it would be ludicrous to say that those white people who did were doing so just to oppress another group. For the white voters in the South, they would at least be afforded the shield of religion or traditional concepts, before they were dismissed. For the black voters, though, it was only one reason: ignorance.

Again, this brings me back to the idea that all of the parties were racist--they just handled it differently. Whereas the Republicans are traditionally depicted as being the ones with Rebel Flags and burning crosses, the Democrats were the ones who couldn't be racist because they had black friends. Its all bullshit to me.

Oppression is oppression. Whether it be homophobia, racism, sexism (which was HUGE and largely unacknowledged), ageism, whatever. And what I don't get is how progressives feel they have the balls to point the finger while not realizing that by pointing the finger and oversimplifying the causes, merely reducing it to race, they are picking up a cross of a different kind and lighting a match. I guess it just means they're progressively choosing to demonize in a new way. Well isn't that special? Then again....the fact that this is one of the first times I've ever seen where the drop rule was applied in reverse and so many people are willing to point to Obama's white half lest it be forgotten, shows me just how far the US is willing to come for harmony in all levels (not to say that this isn't true--we all understand that he is mixed....however, the need to justify this by raising his status because he's half white is strangely hilarious, since back from the days of slavery, having a black great-grandparent was enough to put you in the colored bathroom).

I mean....gay marriage was struck down in Cali and progressives are pointing fingers at the black vote. Affirmative Action was repealed in Nebraska.....where are the progressives to lambast the rural white voters over that? :wink:

FAIL FAIL FAIL!!!

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:52 am
by djshiva
Yeah, I think you are pointing out the most egregious part of this whole fucking mess: total oversimplification on many levels.

It does bear repeating that the white vote affected this in many states, and yet no one is pointing the finger at white people as some monolithic group that all thinks alike. And I think that those of us who are palefaces should ask ourselves just how much we would like to be associated with the most assholish among us, as if we are all the same.

But yanno, the root of this whole brouhaha about the black vote and prop 8 really is affected by a latent racism that the progressive and gay communities have always tried to cover up. As I pointed out earlier in the thread, this didn't come from nowhere. Those of us involved in the progressive movement, whether through feminism or gay rights or any number of things, and who have been paying attention, know full well that race is the big elephant in the room that no one wants to address. It's long been a bone of contention between white leaders of those movements, and people of color who have been frustrated with being shoved aside.

And by going along with this heated dialogue blaming blacks for Prop 8, the gay rights/progressive movement has conceded the power to the right wing to dictate the parameters of this conversation (Bill O' Reilly is talking about this now, as if he really fucking cares about gay people's rights), and I think that is a massive strategic and moral blunder.

I think we need to talk about race (specifically in the progressive movements, but also on a wider scale), but in a much less heated arena than is happening now, and with some fucking sense and sensitivity.

And we definitely don't need to hand the right wingers more fucking ammo.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:55 am
by surface_tension
Belle, I'm what I consider to be progressive, in the sense that I am extremely fiscally conservative and socially liberal. I'm not exactly running around and carting women to get abortions though :)

I think whomever wants to be married should be able to get married, but that we should really change our entire views on what the institution of marriage is about. A lot of people disagree with that viewpoint. They are free to vote. What we need is judges who will strike down laws such as these, and then a Supreme Court that doesn't bend to the will of any party, but the rule of law.

THAT would be fine with me. You do know that if people followed the Constitution, it wouldn't even matter what party was in power, because the role of Government in our lives would be one of non existence and non intervention. Oh what a world that would be.

We don't like in that world. I know nothing changed, and I know nothing was going to change with the election of Obama. Nothing would have changed with McCain except it may have gotten worse. All I know is that the answer to 1984 is 1776.

"Truth is treason in an empire of lies"

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 2:00 am
by djshiva
Surface_Tension wrote:Belle, I'm what I consider to be progressive, in the sense that I am extremely fiscally conservative and socially liberal. I'm not exactly running around and carting women to get abortions though :)

I think whomever wants to be married should be able to get married, but that we should really change our entire views on what the institution of marriage is about. A lot of people disagree with that viewpoint. They are free to vote. What we need is judges who will strike down laws such as these, and then a Supreme Court that doesn't bend to the will of any party, but the rule of law.

THAT would be fine with me. You do know that if people followed the Constitution, it wouldn't even matter what party was in power, because the role of Government in our lives would be one of non existence and non intervention. Oh what a world that would be.

We don't like in that world. I know nothing changed, and I know nothing was going to change with the election of Obama. Nothing would have changed with McCain except it may have gotten worse. All I know is that the answer to 1984 is 1776.
Honestly man, while you may be correct in some aspects, you are talking like a college course in civics, while Belly is talking from the gut and the heart right now. I don't think we (and by we I mean me and Belly and those who are affected on a very real basis by what is going on right now) need a civics lesson about marriage right now. We need to talk about how and why this has struck both the gay community and people of color in such a visceral place right now.

But to add to your point, I have told you before that I think the govt should get right the fuck out of the marriage business, and I still believe that.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 2:10 am
by bellybelle
sapphic_beats wrote:And by going along with this heated dialogue blaming blacks for Prop 8, the gay rights/progressive movement has conceded the power to the right wing to dictate the parameters of this conversation (Bill O' Reilly is talking about this now, as if he really fucking cares about gay people's rights), and I think that is a massive strategic and moral blunder.

I think we need to talk about race (specifically in the progressive movements, but also on a wider scale), but in a much less heated arena than is happening now, and with some fucking sense and sensitivity.

And we definitely don't need to hand the right wingers more fucking ammo.
Gah that just made me sick. O'Reilly has his panties in a bunch about shit he doesn't care about. Ugh.

Divisive is the way to guarantee a different election outcome in '12 for sure. Divide and conquer. I wish people would give that microscopic view up for the bigger picture.

I mean....I've felt it in several arenas. I'm a woman. I'm a black person. And I'm bi (and not just in clubs to get my bf turned on so he won't leave me....*hurk*). And it is frustrating to have warring factions all living in the same body. But....we're never going to get anywhere if we just pass the buck. And blaming the lil'er groups for problems greatly ignored by an even larger majority doesn't get us any further along in terms of progress. No one wins when we strive to be smug. We have to get past that on all levels.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 7:09 am
by djshiva
great story that references fivethirtyeight.com polling rockstar nate silver's breakdown of prop 8 voting stats, completely blasting apart the "obama vote passed prop 8" myth.

http://www.bilerico.com/2008/11/stop_bl ... _8s_pa.php

seriously. can we shut the fuck up about it now?

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 7:36 am
by surface_tension
sapphic_beats wrote:We need to talk about how and why this has struck both the gay community and people of color in such a visceral place right now.
I was talking about How. You're talking about why. Why doesn't matter as much as how. How can teach us to prevent it in the future. There will always be bigots and hatred. The best solution is to remove the how and make it legally impossible for the hatred and the bigots to legislate that hate.

Solution is to defend the constitution not just when it suits us, but when it suits everyone. There will always be things we don't like about our neighbors. Yours plays that trance at 4am. I'm more worried about the state of the planet with trance, than I am with gay people being able to marry. Let them be just as unhappy as the rest of the planet, I say.

Pretty soon, you won't be "gay" anymore. Your mood will now be called "breeder" ;)

And I know you are smarter than most people I know, so you probably realize that seeing men dressed as Nuns in pride parades and shit like that doesn't drum up support for the cause. How many times do we sit and make jokes about conservative Christians? All the time.

Your moral code would allow for gay marriage, as would mine. Some people believe homosexuality is a sin, as per their religious text or some shit. While I find that to be hoohah and baldur dash and poppy cock and all that shit, they find your beliefs and my beliefs to be equally as reprehensible. And guess what... we want to legislate our own version of morals on them. It's a 2-sided coin. So I spoke of solutions... the solution is to defend the Constitution and make sure judges who believe in freedom for all sentient beings as being an absolute right, not granted by the laws of man, but of whatever diety you choose to worship(including yourself)

they can't be taken away. I don't see any problem with that response, as I too was speaking from the heart. And frankly if anyone here is shocked, they need the civics lesson. I think we all do.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 7:43 am
by djshiva
Surface_Tension wrote:
sapphic_beats wrote:We need to talk about how and why this has struck both the gay community and people of color in such a visceral place right now.
I was talking about How. You're talking about why. Why doesn't matter as much as how. How can teach us to prevent it in the future. There will always be bigots and hatred. The best solution is to remove the how and make it legally impossible for the hatred and the bigots to legislate that hate.

Solution is to defend the constitution not just when it suits us, but when it suits everyone. There will always be things we don't like about our neighbors. Yours plays that trance at 4am. I'm more worried about the state of the planet with trance, than I am with gay people being able to marry. Let them be just as unhappy as the rest of the planet, I say.

Pretty soon, you won't be "gay" anymore. Your mood will now be called "breeder" ;)

And I know you are smarter than most people I know, so you probably realize that seeing men dressed as Nuns in pride parades and shit like that doesn't drum up support for the cause. How many times do we sit and make jokes about conservative Christians? All the time.

Your moral code would allow for gay marriage, as would mine. Some people believe homosexuality is a sin, as per their religious text or some shit. While I find that to be hoohah and baldur dash and poppy cock and all that shit, they find your beliefs and my beliefs to be equally as reprehensible. And guess what... we want to legislate our own version of morals on them. It's a 2-sided coin. So I spoke of solutions... the solution is to defend the Constitution and make sure judges who believe in freedom for all sentient beings as being an absolute right, not granted by the laws of man, but of whatever diety you choose to worship(including yourself)

they can't be taken away. I don't see any problem with that response, as I too was speaking from the heart. And frankly if anyone here is shocked, they need the civics lesson. I think we all do.
i cannot say anything more about this than i already did in private convo. i cannot necessarily articulate on an intellectual level, what is coming from a much deeper, more personal place.

all i know is this: people are hurting and people are angry. and while we need to take the necessary steps in civil society to deal with the here and now, we also need to take the necessary personal steps to speak our stories, to open our hearts and to begin to heal. i haven't even begun to delve into that part of me that is enraged beyond belief by all of this right now. if i did, i would be breaking shit. and politics are my personal crack, but there are things that even my favorite drug can't fix. this is one of those.

the constitution certainly must be a part of the political/civil solution, but does nothing to heal my soul. sorry.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 9:06 am
by echo wanderer
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 9:17 am
by djshiva
if you care enough to get involved, whether for yourself, for a family member, a friend, or just because it's right to stand up for human rights, this weekend is a national day of protest for equality.

you can find what is happening in your city here:
http://jointheimpact.wetpaint.com/

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:14 pm
by POND LIFE
why dont we let gays get married, but call it something else?
instead of 'married', it'll be called 'butt buddies'

genius episode.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 3:04 pm
by bellybelle
sapphic_beats wrote:if you care enough to get involved, whether for yourself, for a family member, a friend, or just because it's right to stand up for human rights, this weekend is a national day of protest for equality.

you can find what is happening in your city here:
http://jointheimpact.wetpaint.com/
Thanks for that Shiva!!!

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 3:07 pm
by bellybelle
Surface_Tension wrote:
sapphic_beats wrote:We need to talk about how and why this has struck both the gay community and people of color in such a visceral place right now.
I was talking about How. You're talking about why. Why doesn't matter as much as how. How can teach us to prevent it in the future. There will always be bigots and hatred. The best solution is to remove the how and make it legally impossible for the hatred and the bigots to legislate that hate.
Wrong, because as long as you oversimplify and merely point at race as opposed to countering the real motivation which is Religion, all you're doing is helping people feel justified in being racist and that gets nothing done. You won't hit the real enemy--instead, you'll just fuel the fire and contribute to social paralysis. Dismantle the Why and you can move on from there. "Know thine enemy" and all that. Because as much as you'll always have bigots and hatred, the reason they continue is by not talking about why it is and confronting the lies with truth.

Its really that simple.

Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 8:40 pm
by djshiva
d1rt1989 wrote:why dont we let gays get married, but call it something else?
instead of 'married', it'll be called 'butt buddies'

genius episode.
thanks for that pile of slop. in case you hadn't noticed, there were actual intelligent conversations going on here. you should try it sometime.