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So im newly single again and being a guy that doesnt like the single life im straight back on the dating scene.

After plucking up the courage I have just managed to hook up a date with a real beauty and have told her that i will give her full details closer to the time as it is a 'surprise'...truth is i have no idea where to take her.

Now im far from inexperienced when it comes to pickin up woman but i struggle when it comes to effort and originality.

Does anybody have any good suggestions on where i can take this girl to really get to know her? I know she could have any guy she wants and i really want to keep her interested and give her a time to remember.

Does anybody want to share their dating experiences, good or bad? What has or hasnt worked for you. Please tell.

Cheers...

Where u from mate?


Anyways.. take her for a meal and a show.. i say show.. i mean cinema...

cliché i know. but its good for gettng off the ground... if not a cinema person.. see if she likes alcohol. take her for a few drinks..

Obviously all this adds up.... don't OVER spend. Keep it casual.. be yourself (also cliché)

Its always worked for me.. i used to over think things.. and base the whole thing on money.. but i realised it aint even that. Ive had excellent & meaningful times just sitting ina park, discussing/talking/deliberating/having fun.

no names lol.

Seeing as you mentioned surprise, your gun have to push the boat out a bit.. just be a gentleman.

im tired atm i'll add more when i wake up.

Im from Croydon Von. Your right though fella, i shouldnt look too deep into it i guess, my best dates have also be in those type of places so i should have just kept it simple. Maybe i just get the impression this girl could be high maintenance...but damn is she hot...

I know i kinda shot myself in the foot with the 'surprise' thing, she had already said yes for gods sake but when she asked where i was gonna take her i didnt want her thinkin i hadnt put any thought into it...coz the truth was i hadnt, i was more concerned about just askin her out in the first place.

Ive just been told there is a Mexican restaurant in London where you eat food off plates balanced on the head of Midgets...cant get more surprising than that

haha nice one, that should go down a treat.

Trust dont feel that you have to prove somethgin to her.. chances are (based on her looks).. she's had those kind of guys that flashes cash in front of her.. and if shes single then maybe shes not that kind of girl.. aybe she needs a man with stability.. a good sense of character and a pure heart who can show her that it is YOU she needs in her life.

If shes as pure as you woulds hope.. she wont really care about the location/grand gestures.


Flowers are always nice though

boh boh boh take her to your gaff and have it off.

Man, your right again Von, and without sounding too egotistical i know that my charm and sense of humour always prevail so i guess it doesnt really matter where i take her.

Based on my past experience though i think the sad underlying fact is that im a natural born womaniser and i only have one thing in mind and once i have got it i will soon lose interest and move on to the next 'lucky' lady.

Hopefully this one will be different (coz im starting to get a reputation lol...)

And Tempest...thats exactly what im trying to get away from...I didnt think men could be slags but apparently they can lol

im trying to shake off that status too FAUST, however it doesnt really matter with the girl im seeing at the moment, as she knows my history.

She is a right fucking laugh and gorgeous to boot aswell, i have made my choice i think.

Did you meet this girl allofasudden or did you know her previously & this is the 1st time you have gone out with her...because if the second one is the case, you should go out n get pissed with her, i always have a good night when i get pissed with a date...

nice tip's by the way von, your giving away all your moves tho man

I met this girl last Chrismas Eve when i was on one of my usual sleeze missions deamonds. At the time she had a fella though but we stayed in touch as we got on well. Shes newly single too so i think she will just be happy to be dating again so maybe a good ol' piss up it is...

Sounds like you found a keeper there deamonds so dont go making my mistakes and always looking for the bad things in a girl, thinking i can do better and always wondering what i might be missing if i was single again...

Ive just found out my ex (with her 4 years) is having a child... something i refused to have when i was with her... and now when i try and talk to her she's tryna go on like

"if my man saw dese msgs he wudnt like it.. lets just leave it"

I only want to speak to her really, as i had to fidn out through my mum

Am i allowed to feel gutted?


Cause i do

an enjoyable date i had once, was going for some mexican food, having some maragritas, walking on the pier, beer on the beach, i genuinely whooped his arse at house of the dead on the arcade and then went out to a night with a very loud sound system.... it was a fun day.

but then i planned the date so i would say that

Owl sanctuary's a winner every time

von that's pissed mate, i dont really wanna pass out advice as i havent been in that situation before..u can probably guess what i would say though!!!

oh and FAUST.DTC, were we separated at birth, im more scared of commitment than a barrel in my mouth

Von, you know it doesnt matter how many girls i 'dump' on my quest to finding 'the one' I always seem to feel slightly jealous if i hear summin about them, especially if it is that they have a new fella...i dont know if jealous is the right word in your case but i can understand why you would feel gutted, you was together for 4 years and all you want to do is talk to her...right!!!

And dr ddd, forgeting all i have said in my above posts, you sound like fun, fancy a date, ill let you choose where we go...

deamonds wrote:oh and FAUST.DTC, were we separated at birth, im more scared of commitment than a barrel in my mouth

hahaha so true mate, thing is i dont know what im more scared of, commitment or dying lonely...its a catch-22 situation...but what scares me most is that one day i might finally meet the girl i have been looking for and she goes and does summin to break my heart in the same way i have done to so many before her...

yea u know, also, saying something stupid that scares them away, fucking hell, she's still got a boyfriend for fooks sake, meanwhile im head over some fuckry heels

haha Faust - thank you very much but i'm taken really quite taken.... (and no - it's not with a guy named Thomas Rogun )


guys guys - stop! just be yourselves please. if everyone does that, you work out pretty soon on whether anything is worth pursuing and if you think it is you've got everything laid out there.... being fond of someone's flaws as much as their perfections. If not and you both have some fun, there's nothing wrong with that either - just nice and honest

If you really want to make an effort with someone - ask a mate - or ask them what they fancy doing..... goes a remarkable way you know. I've always found it quite bizarre that telepathy is always assumed to be a requirement in the dating game

oh and to the breaking hearts i had this on both ends and it isnt pleasant.... but you cant live your life in fear - and bizarrely, even if you actively try to, there's always someone to come along when you least expect it that makes you think/do otherwise.

I like this thread - it makes me realise that guys and girls think pretty similarly you know...