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Siderealdb wrote:

noam wrote:inner conflict over these emotions will be more detrimental to you in this situation than their words

My situation involves many things that I think plenty of people in their later twenties go through. Like being constantly asked about marriage and children. Personally I take offence to such questions, but I understand where they come from. Does anyone relate to this?

Fuck that, I see getting married like taking the lethal injection. Why settle down too soon? You do live just once after all.

My dad was in the navy, and I happen to like taking drugs, dicking around and breaking the law so I've had it all, "you're an embarrassment, you're not part of this family, you're not my son"

then I took mushrooms, had an intense heart to heart with my parents, lots of hugs, lots of crying, now they love me again

Luckily, I have an older brother who took the marriage and kids bullet before my Mum had a chance to start nagging me. She's far too tired looking after two grandkids to ask when I'm going to find something I like enough to put a ring on it.

In a similar vein as a few posts before. I was supposed to be the smart kid. Currently im the grimey drug taking kid who plays at illegal raves, and my brothers are doing well for themselves.

Fuck them, do what makes you happy. It'll work out in the end.

Kochari wrote:then I took mushrooms, had an intense heart to heart with my parents, lots of hugs, lots of crying, now they love me again

did you have the chat while you were on the shrooms?

^ Yep, hence why it was so intense

Kochari wrote:^ Yep, hence why it was so intense

thats awesomre.
did they know?

stop calling them "the fam?"

hasezwei wrote:i was always 'the smart kid' in our family thanks to fucking psychiatrists thinking i'm some sort of brain mutant, so all my uncles and aunts were more interested in my school career than me as a person. everyone always talked about what would be best for me (iE me realizing the dreams they failed at), now i'm the only one in my generation of the fam who completely failed school. i haven't heard from anyone except my grandma since then, not even on my 18th and 19th birthdays.

so yeah fuck family, seriously. might not be related to your problem but i've been called an embarrassment more than one time in the above context.

yeah how terrible of your family to think you're clever, you showed them though!

thread reeks of self pity.

wub wrote:Eh, you can have it pro bono providing you sign a document absolving the donor of any responsibilites, together with a caveat confirming 'Horatio' as the guaranteed first choice name if it's a boy.

Sorry, I want a daughter. I will take that tube guaranteed it gives me a girl. I give generous compensation. Must have no daddy's little girl attachment.

I'm a daddy's girl but I want to raise a daughter more than a son. Sorry guys, no offense. I will do both but I think I need a husband for that. It's hard enough thinking of doing it alone.

What does it matter if your folks are asking you when youre getting married, having kids etc? If youre 27 then i dont see why youre getting so wound up over nothing basically.

I'd be embarrassed to be part of a family that was embarrassed by me not being married
and I'd tell them so
which makes me no better,
so it can't be that much of a big deal

unless your not telling us the whole truth
and it's not about being unmarried but because
you give them cheapskate Chrissie presents
while spending up big on your extensive butt plug collection.

sd5 wrote:I'd be embarrassed to be part of a family that was embarrassed by me not being married
and I'd tell them so
which makes me no better,
so it can't be that much of a big deal

unless your not telling us the whole truth
and it's not about being unmarried but because
you give them cheapskate Chrissie presents
while spending up big on your extensive butt plug collection.

The models with remote controls dont come cheap you know

oo I know, I know

give it a year or so of still having a shit job when my brother starts doing better than me THEN i'll be the embarassment. it happens...

im the only one my parents have



they actually can't hate me

I'm an only adopted child..so it would actually be illegal for them to not like me...

..I still get bugged though...

and I get put in the play room with the children during holidays..
but that's mostly because I have no cruise or major purchase to talk about...

ever see that movie about Jackson Pollock?...
..at christmas he's trying to explain to his family that his art career has really taken off..
and they keep saying - that's great but when are you going to start a family...

They just don't get it.

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ah, that makes sense.
Maybe you two could adopt each other as brother & sister.

The otherwise sensible suggestion that you have kids together,
to mutually gain parental approval,
would be like advocating for mutant misgenation
(...tho undoubtedly, highly artistic mutants)

become really successful and alienate your family at the same time.

when one of them hits you up for cash, "damn that must be really embarrassing to have to ask ME for cash, of all people."

but on the real though... they're your family, but that doesn't mean their opinion is valid. i have some redneck great uncle who has made racist comments about my son (i'm white, my wife is puerto rican) - i will shake his hand at family functions, but other than that he is persona non gratia until he makes amends.

DRTY wrote:
Fuck that, I see getting married like taking the lethal injection. Why settle down too soon? You do live just once after all.

And to think I was so close to getting married....